A Quandary

March 31, 2012 By Leave a Comment

M and I will have been married for one year in a few weeks, however some of you may know that M is a shift worker.  There are 3 shifts each day, that need to be covered 7 days a week, 365 days a year.  However being newly weds, many people envision sex to be a very regular occurrence for newly weds.  However soon after we got married, M started the shift work, and so the amount of sex hasn’t been what I expected it to be given our newly wed status.

I know that I shouldn’t hype myself up, but one would expect a decent amount.

Not only that, but since 2012 started, her roster has included just 3 out of 14 weekends where she has had both Saturday and Sunday to spend with me, and with me being a Monday-Friday worker, you start to see that we don’t get a lot of quality time together, let alone bedroom time together.  Yes we can schedule it, but with her rotating schedule, finding common times is difficult.

Her position has been extended until May, and I’m wondering whether I should ask her to stop doing shift work, for the benefit of our sex lives.  The most sex we do get, is the weekends that she is free, and the occasional mid week encounter maybe once or twice a month.

We certainly aren’t living up to this sites name, Our Sex Secrets.

Am I being selfish to ask my wife to change positions for our sex lives?  Is it an unreasonable request?

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Theme Design Update

November 15, 2011 By Leave a Comment

I’m wanting to update my theme on all my website real estate properties, both this blog, and my SFW blog. I don’t really want to spend money on a theme, but at the same time, I don’t think I’m skilled enough to come up with a design that I am happy to show off.

So has anyone got any recommendations for themes I could potentially use?

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Not Happy Again

October 18, 2011 By

I am once again not happy with my blog theme.

I am currently using Tapestry Theme built by StudioPress and powered by the Genesis Theme Framework.  I do like the power of Genesis, and as such I plan to build my new theme using Genesis, modifying it as required to get the layout that I really want to have.

However what skills I possess in modifying Genesis using a child theme and the hooks, I certainly lack in the design department of CSS. So if anyone out there wants to help with modifying the CSS to create a pleasing design, I would certainly be interested in using your skills. We could possibly even partner in building WordPress child themes built on Genesis and sell them via the StudioPress Marketplace.

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Hard Time with Motivation

July 25, 2011 By

I’m sure that you have noticed the lack of consistent blog posts here on the blog, and that is mostly my fault, and a real lack of motivation.

A lack of sex toys to review is also another contributing factor for the lack of a motivation. I could go back and write a second review for some of our older toys, but I’m not really all that sure what I would change about the reviews. I wrote them based on our first experiences, and the more we use them, the more it reinforces what we initially wrote about them.

I could potentially write my own versions of some instructional posts, but I don’t think I could do them justice like other sex bloggers have done in the past.

So if I ever go quiet for any period of time, then you know why, and what you can do to motivate me, send me a new adult toy to review.

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The Beginning of Change

July 13, 2011 By

As you can probably tell, I’ve been rather slack when it comes to my blog for the past week, however that was partly an error with the server that was out of my control, and it seems that all is well again.

Having looked at fellow Twitter-ers update the design of their blog, as well as some of my friends in my not so risque world, I’m feeling like my blog needs a facelift. It has been the current design since the beginning, and I feel that it needs a change, a splash of colour, and maybe a slightly new layout.

I feel that the site needs a banner that describes both M and myself, and the fact that we share our sex secrets.

As for colour choices, I haven’t really decided anything, but I’m thinking of basing it around a bright red for ‘lust’ and ‘passion’, but also maybe going from a light coloured theme as it is now to a darker one, with reds and pinks over a black background.

I’m still really open to ideas and suggestions, so if you have any I would love to hear them.

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